When surveyed on topics they would most like to see in the newsletter, PAMP members responded that their number one interest was time management. Why is time management a top concern for PAMP members, and what can be done to address it?
The Wall Street Journal recently ran an article about running your family like a business. The article discusses several modern families from around the country who borrow from the skills used every day in businesses and organizations. They use these skills to motivate their kids, and to streamline daily family activities that are aligned with clear, articulated and commonly understood values, goals and priorities.
How many PAMP member parents have taken the time to sit down and create a vision for their family – the way a CEO of a business or a manager of a corporate team might – prior to delving into the work of motivating and producing? This is the first step for any modern parent struggling with time management issues. Try sitting down to create a Family Mission Statement, and ask yourself: What do you hope your kids learn in your family? What values do you want to emphasize?
Second, see how it impacts the choices you make for family activities. Be sure to notice if your daily activities/actions reinforce and align to who you are as defined in your Family Mission Statement, or if they detract.
For instance, what if you review your Family Mission Statement and realize that signing your child up for one more class (that another family is doing and you think you have to keep up with) just doesn’t allow you to meet your value of being together as a family on the weekends? Or your value of unplugging and spending more time in nature? In this way, you can continue to use the Family Mission Statement as a tool in your time management thought process.
Very often, modern families are under pressure to keep up with the way other people are parenting their kids, to live up to a very high standard of perfection that our society currently holds for parenting, and to berate themselves up for not living up to this standard.
What if you completely let go of the way that others parent their children – the neighbors, the President of the PTA, your sister-in-law – and just decided today that you know exactly what you want to teach your children? How would it feel to just let go of external driving and pressure? How would your kids respond? What would happen to your sense of “time management?”
Finally, if you’ve created a Family Mission Statement and are looking for more “nuts and bolts” help with time management and organization, read the book Getting Things Done by David Allen. Also, look for a local workshop that can support streamlining daily behaviors to maximize your time. Try seeking out a local coach who specifically works with families on organizational management of the home. And check the Parents Place for organizational workshops for parents held in Palo Alto.
Taking a business approach toward family time management may help to create more quality time and less stress in your family life.